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Growing Older Gracefully And/Or Happily

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Growing Older Gracefully And/Or Happily
mother's happy child Posted: Fri, Jan 7 2011 10:12 PM Reply

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My mind separates these two words or thoughts into equal parts.

 

I visualize the happy part of growing older as an inside attitude of all of us.  Something felt from within; to be touched, but not by the hand; enlarged with the passing of time and experience(s).  Are we to assume that each of us will grow older happily?  Probably not.  But, I’m of the firm belief that most of us begin our lives at birth as happy babies and our attitudes change with our life experiences depending on how we are raised, loved and treated along the way.  Some will encounter negative life-threatening experiences that will change their attitudes; like loosing a parent or both parents at a very early age; or an illness that sets them on a constant medical battle; or even an accident that causes some physical and/or mental suffering.   Without  a good support system, prayer, peace, patience and understanding, these issues could cause resentment, anger, lack of self esteem, and a host of reasons for not wanting to live. 

 

On the other hand, some of us will receive positive reinforcement, encouraging us to pick up the pieces and go on the best we can with our lives; squeezing from the bad, all the good we can possibly hold in our hands and hearts; believing and having faith that we can and will live happily ever after.

 

When I visualize the graceful part of growing older, it conjures up a physical, rather than an inside attitude; physical because everything can be seen on the outside.  In relation to the way we dress and/or carry ourselves – our walk could be considered graceful, or the way we put one foot gracefully in front of the other, as well as the way we turn slowly to hear the person next to us.  We may also be mannerly in social circles and speak eloquently about art and literature.  These are ways in which we actually see people from a physical standpoint.

 

From a personal point of view – I’m geared toward growing older happily as opposed to gracefully.  I believe it is way too late for me to think about the graceful aspect.  My mother always referred to me as “her happy child” and I wouldn’t want to disappoint her at this late stage of the game by becoming too graceful.

 
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Re: Growing Older Gracefully And/Or Happily
kjforce replied on Fri, Apr 15 2011 9:03 PM Reply

Retired from the medical field and a life changing event, I have turned to writing as an outlet . Based on life decisions,choices ,relationships with family,friends,co-workers and society in general. the name of my first book "My Life as a WEED..and weeds (words) to live by" there is also a website dedicated to those who live outside the box and those who do and don't know it.

My writings are done with a tongue in cheek humor and I relate to living as a weed by choice.

I am featured on Authorsden.com with two reviews of my book and a member of Bookblogs.com

I look forward to hearing from you..kjforce

retired from medical field..living in Florida and living life with HUMOR...as a weed by choice..

Nann to 7 grandchildren

Website dedicated to people who live outside the box and those who do and don't know it ..YET .

 
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RE:Growing Older Gracefully And/Or Happily
kjforce replied on Sat, May 7 2011 10:53 AM Reply

I spend alot of time with my Grandchildren...I reflect on things that happened in my life and we discuss them, you would be surprised at some of the questions and answers I get. The children range in ages 5-20 .

This is a great way to discover how important your relationship is with grandchildren and they in turn see you as an individual NOT just as Nann ( grandmother)..I would be curious to know how others view and feel their relationship with grandchildren..this process has kept me young....AGE IS A STATE OF MIND...whatever works..hmmm.look forward to hearing from you..kjforce

retired from medical field..living in Florida and living life with HUMOR...as a weed by choice..

Nann to 7 grandchildren

Website dedicated to people who live outside the box and those who do and don't know it ..YET .

 
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Re: RE:Growing Older Gracefully And/Or Happily
mother's happy child replied on Sun, May 15 2011 9:12 AM Reply
kjforce,
My view from the positive side:
I know many would argue my point(s) "..." but, I believe this is what God originally had in mind when he created man and woman (among other reasons) - to keep children coming into families to enhance their lives with laughter and to keep the adults - feeling young.  Unfortunately, I do not have that claim to fame of being a grand parent, but I know many who are and they lavish the idea of oohing and aahing over those little grand babies.  I've seen people change their whole attitudes about life and relationships - just over a newborn baby. Then as everyone grows older, to be able to share and grow together.   No one can tell me that's not a miracle.  Talk about growing older happily?  Why not, I say!

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Re: RE:Growing Older Gracefully And/Or Happily
Karma replied on Mon, May 16 2011 2:14 PM Reply

My daughter is 16 and she laughs at me all the time, claiming that she'll be just like me when she's my age. Of course, she ends with, "but that's a good thing!"

I think that it's just part of my personality that I joke around a lot and I think my children just think I'm a funny person. If laughter is what makes me feel young, then I go where the laughter is. It's funny too, because when people around me become negative or ugly, I just move along and avoid as much of it as possible.

It's no different than dieting. When you want to get rid of that extra weight, you cut out the fat and cholesterol. When you want to get rid of that extra wrinkle or gray hair (at least the affects of them), cut out the negativity and the drama!  :)

I don't have grandbabies yet, but when I do, I think it will be fun because I won't have the stresses that come with the baby, my kids will deal with that.

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